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28

Mar

2011

Full Steam Ahead

By amasake. Posted in Uncategorized | Comments Off

My next move is actually THE move — I’m gonna move in with Professor!  Why not? He loves me so much he’d rather let me see other men than lose me. He did that “if you love someone, set them free” thing… and I came back!! How’s that not a sign?

Of course I’ll miss the Animator. Even now, a part of me is mourning the loss of his hands, his mouth, his soft sweet sexy murmurings in my ear…  But the dude is unreliable. I don’t care what he says about “playing it too cool” — this guy KNOWS women: our bodies, our emotions, the way our brains tend to work… He knew exactly what he was doing, leaving me hanging.  Please. I have some dignity.

I finally wrote him:

From: Amasake
Sent: Sunday, March 27, 2011 11:19 PM
To: <email removed>
Subject: RE: Miss you

Baby — you were lovely.  A bit hard to count on but no worries, we were keeping things casual, right? I think I’m more the “girlfriend” type, though. Reconnecting with my ex. We’ll see how things go. I miss you too but mainly just for your body. Ha! Take care…

Hey now,  he wrote me right back:

From: <email removed>
Sent: Sunday, March 27, 2011 11:49 PM
To: Amasake
Subject: RE: Miss you

Take care? Who are you, my grandmother? No hard feelings, babe, just makes me sad thinkin bout you trying to make it work with that poindexter. Buzz me if you need a booty call. Or just someone to talk to. See? I’m a nice guy! Smile for me, beautiful.

Dammit. Dammit. Dammit. One more email, then I’ll really focus on life with Professor:

From: Amasake
Sent: Monday, March 28, 2011 12:17 AM
To: <email removed>
Subject: RE: Miss you

Stop confusing me!

PS.  Is it too much to ask to keep you at my beck & call for personal sexual services, if needed? I’m thinking maybe we can work on some sorta “Bat signal”  you can look for in the sky over the city?

Had to laugh at his reply:

From: <email removed>
Sent: Monday, March 28, 2011 12:32 AM
To: Amasake
Subject: RE: Miss you

Just text me, ya goof. I’ll come running as fast as I can with a raging hard-on!

What am I doing? Why can’t I make a clean break? Why do I need to keep this one door open, even as I’m planning to take things to the next level with Professor?

I love Professor — and I trust him and his feelings for me — but something seems to be missing from our relationship. Maybe moving in will help, which would be awesome but I’m not counting on it.

Sometimes, I feel like I’m just past the age where ANY person could fulfill every need. Life is long & the world is huge. Doesn’t it make more sense to have a guy who’s there for me as we grow/learn/travel/etc, over a guy who dazzles me in the bedroom, then disappears? Isn’t real conversation better than sweet nothings?

These aren’t rhetorical questions, I’m really wondering.

 

 

25

Mar

2011

Speak of the Devil

By amasake. Posted in Uncategorized | Comments Off

Wouldn’t you know, I open my email today and get this:

From: <email removed>
Sent: Friday, March 25, 2011 12:19 PM
To: Amasake
Subject: Miss you

Sweetie, what happened? Have I blown my chance? I miss everything about you.  See me tonight and let me make good on whatever’s gone wrong. I’m a jerk sometimes, especially to super cool chicks who throw my game off. Did I play it too cool?

Great.  Just what I need, a monkey wrench.

Is this the truth, or more bullshit? Why do I care? What does it mean for me & Professor, that I’m still looking over my shoulder after we agreed to move ahead together?

Need to think. Will let him stew till Sunday, when if I’m lucky I’ll have figured out my next move…

 

25

Mar

2011

Latest Proposition

By amasake. Posted in Uncategorized | Comments Off

So far, so good — no, great — with Professor.  Last night, for the first time, we seriously talked about moving in together.

We’ve discussed this in the past, of course, but as much more theoretical possibility. This time around, he really wanted to make a plan for us to move forward.

He was so cute about it, too. I’d had a crazy day at work and just wanted to crawl into a hot bath & an early bed but he really wanted me to come by, said he had a surprise for me and everything. He did, too: he’d made dinner (well, he’d purchased gourmet take-out and heated it up) and bought wine and even lit a candle on the table he set with actual plates.

We cozied up and he told me how glad he was that I came over, that he could do something special for me after such a rough day. “I want you to feel at home here, ” he said, and then added, “Not just feel home, but BE home.”

Well, choke me with a cippolini onion! Before I could protest, he went on to make a case for moving in: saving money, saving time, more opportunities to get closer, to be a “real” couple…  My heart was veritably singing — I had no idea I wanted so badly to hear him say this stuff.

But I found myself making excuses for him in bed. I was just starting to really get into his long, slow, deep kisses… my mind was in that lovely stage of melting away, my body was warming up, and then suddenly, without warning, he whipped his underwear off and with a nervous laugh pushed into me with all the grace of a gorilla in heat.

I used to think he wasn’t interested in me or was selfish & lazy in bed but after all the attention he’s been showing me lately, I’m no longer so sure that’s the issue, here. Maybe he’s just learned bad habits? He hasn’t had many long-term relationships, perhaps he still approaches sex from a “get it before she changes her mind” viewpoint. Maybe he’s tried to be fancy in the past and been shot down, or laughed at.

Maybe if we move in together, we’ll have more time to work on intimacy and develop a better sexual repertoire?

I’m on a month-to-month lease, so technically there’s nothing keeping me from making the leap to his address. He’s got plenty of room. If things don’t work out, I could always move into the guest room while I looked for another place to live.  Professor is nothing if not fair & kind & patient. Not the vindictive type, at all.

What have I got to lose? The Animator certainly seems to have moved on. Why shouldn’t I?

 

23

Mar

2011

Homecoming

By amasake. Posted in Uncategorized | Comments Off

So Professor and I were snuggling up Sunday morning, and my phone goes off. Half of me wants to jump for it, the other half wants to hide. He looks at me with sad eyes, “The guy you were waiting for the other night?”

I felt like such a traitor, after such a weekend of love with Professor. Corny, I know, but sometimes life’s corny. Sometimes, there’s cooing & cuddling & goo-goo eyes…  Sometimes, you feel such a connection with someone, you can’t imagine ever having felt this way before. No matter how many times you’ve leaned on that cliché before.

And I totally felt in synch with Professor, in new and wonderful ways.  We took long, luxurious walks through his neighborhood, checking out the shops and various houses of different periods. We peeked down alleys behind row homes, marveled at how each owner created their own, unique oasis on their tiny concrete slab/back”yard”. We stopped for espressos at a little Latin market.  Ran some errands, cooked some dinner — things that we never really did together in the past. This weekend, we were a team. I can’t imagine turning my back on this, for something as shallow as what I have with the Animator.So my heart skipping a beat at his phone call: that was disturbing.  I need to let some time pass, need to focus on Professor, and then one day in the ridiculously near future, I’ll wonder how I was ever so confused as I am now.

Oh damn, though. A part of me still wonders. Is all this wonderfulness with Professor just more of the same, only now that I’m all hurt by the Animator, I’m happier with less? Could these twitterpated feelings be a form of sour grapes?  Am I unconsciously exaggerating my feelings because I’m burned out on the dating thing and looking for an excuse to run back?

Has Professor always seen this coming? Despite two weekends and much awkwardness between us lately, he seems so easy now, almost like he was expecting this change of heart.

Is that possibly proof that we’re right for each other? Or the opposite?

I didn’t answer Professor’s question about who was calling me. Just lied there and let it ring, and after it stopped, the “BE-BOOP-BOOP-BOOP” of a text message coming in. Then another. Then another.

“He really wants to talk to you…”

I took inventory. Yeah, I am curious to read his messages. Probably a mass text sending out feelers for tonight, or possibly a lame excuse for having been outta contact all weekend…  I’m sure it’ll be interesting.

I rested my head against Professor’s chest, rubbed my face in his fur there; inhaled warmth and musk and joy. I don’t care if my mind is playing tricks on me. Here and now, I’m exactly where I need to be.

 

19

Mar

2011

Wake-Up (no) Call

By amasake. Posted in Uncategorized | Comments Off

I gotta admit, I expected him to call last night.

Thank god for cell phones, cause I doubt I’d have left the house if I’d had to sit by the phone & wait for it to ring. Instead, I agreed to meet Professor for dinner, and did my best to keep my eye out for calls/texts on the sly. Hard to hide my growing disappointment, but somewhere around 10:00 pm I gave up the ghost and suggested we head back early, maybe watch a movie.

Wound up having a really nice evening, too, so fuck the Animator. Fuck him and his sweet talk and his big cock and his expert tongue and… oh man. I gotta stop torturing myself.

The calm night in with Professor was perfect medicine for the crazy sexcapades of the last two weekends. We’re so comfortable with each other, it was a relief to relax and feel safe, secure and loved. Just sitting on the couch, sharing a beer and laughing at stupid stuff on TV was heaven. He told me he’s never felt more “himself” then when he’s with me, and I can understand that feeling, entirely. We’re very different on the surface, but inside,  we’re cut from the same cloth. We get each other.

The Animator, though… He practically worships me when we ‘re together — the vibe between us is electric, which is on one hand exhilarating but on the other:  draining. I feel breathless, keeping up our pace.  Contact issues aside, would we even work as a couple? I mean, two people can’t maintain a buzz this hard forever, right? Don’t these things usually burn out, eventually?

Why do I want so bad to find out?

 

18

Mar

2011

WTF?

By amasake. Posted in Uncategorized | Comments Off

Still haven’t heard from him.

This is NOT how you treat someone you’re sleeping with. He better not try to pull a repeat of last week, cause I will SHUT HIM DOWN, oh boy.

 

17

Mar

2011

Here We Go Again

By amasake. Posted in Uncategorized | Comments Off

God, I am SO stupid.

I tried to be strong, really I did. But last Friday when I finally met up with the Animator, he rushed to me with such happiness, and dammit, I just melted like an idiot. He pulled me close, I breathed him in and happily chalked up our lack of contact all week as a “miscommunication.”

I blew off Professor, too. Texted him that I was coming down with a cold, and spent one more weekend fucking like bunnies in Animator’s cozy bed, letting him reassure me again and again that he’s really, truly into me. Let him tie me up… blindfold me…

The man is a MASTER! He must’ve played with me for hours, stroking my skin with his paint brushes and art tools, swirling circles around my nipples, tickling the back of my knees till I shook. He alternated icy lube with hot wax on my thighs, edging up to my pussy, hinting at my butt.

Now,  guys have asked me to do anal before, but we never seem to get very far — I always figured it was a combination of my extremely tight hole and their clumsy, hurried poking. It’s as if, once they get a green light, guys rush to get it in there before we might change our minds.

Animator was in no hurry —  nor did he even ask, technically. He just put his mouth close to my ear and, while stroking my lower half, whispered gruffly, “I want to take your ass so bad, baby. Please… let me show you how hot your ass is…Lemme make your hot ass feel good… ”

As he spoke, he delicately stroked my crack, and gently reached his finger deeper. Finding my asshole, he spent a good while softly, slowly circling. With his other hand, he teased my clit. Sometimes, he alternated the sensations, and then he’d also use both hands at once. Soon, I was aching to go further.

He seemed to read my mind… as if on cue, his finger behind me pressed lightly deeper. Just a little. Then, back out. Then in again. Then more circles around and around… then back in, deeper this time…

Bound & blindfolded, I was enthralled not knowing what would come next. I found myself pushing back into his hand, only to have him retreat, just a little. And then come back again. Soon, his whole finger was inside me, and when that wasn’t enough, another finger. I was so relaxed and open and ready for anything.

“Can we try for more?” he asked, and I think we were both surprised by how eagerly I nodded.

Our soft laughter gave way to the sound of a condom wrapper crinkling. He expertly adjusted me, then the pointed resistance of his fingers gave way to a larger, fuller hardness. In all these years, I’ve never really understood the point of anal sex but that night was a revelation. I felt so penetrated! So completely filled with him — this sexy, funny, tender, amazing man.

Of course, I haven’t heard from him since our late breakfast Sunday before I went home.

Oh wait, that’s not entirely true:  I got an email from him yesterday that was so generic I suspect I was cc’d on some mass mailing to all his ladies. Apparently, he’s been out of town, at some training thing for work. I assume when I finally do hear back from him, he’ll have forgotten his phone or lost his battery charger or he couldn’t get a signal or he was trapped in a well or in a coma or god knows what other lame ass excuse he’ll come up with.

Damn, why does he have to be like this? Why is he so awesome on weekends but so frustratingly off the grid the rest of the time?

Been spending my evenings with Professor again. Mild, mellow Professor.  Boring, even. Uninspiring. But so available.

Dammit, if only I could take the two of them & mash them together — I’d have the perfect man!

 

11

Mar

2011

Later…

By amasake. Posted in Uncategorized | Comments Off

8:30 pm

Heard from the Animator, finally. Said he dropped his phone into a vat of something at work, slipped right out of his pocket, ploop. He couldn’t believe he was so stupid, but the pocket had a snap and he wanted to keep his phone handy in case I called. Awwww…

So then he had to replace his phone, and then find my number from his online call history, but getting into his account was a bitch cause something about his password…

Oh, I dunno. So much of his story seems unnecessarily dramatic. So what if he dropped his phone, like none of his friends have phones they could lend him to text a stupid message? You can text from Skype, for that matter. And, wait, he has my email, too, so why this phone bullshit?

He obviously went to another happy hour and whoever he was hoping to hook up with either didn’t show or wasn’t impressed. Now he wants me to meet him at “our” bar, where we started out last Friday, where we first met in person after exchanging messages online. Which, by the way, would’ve been another way he could’ve contacted me without a phone!

But fuck it, I’m dressed to go out anyway, why not let him buy me a few beers before I leave his ass to bang Professor’s brains out later tonight?

I might even let him touch me under the table, or eat my pussy in the Men’s Room before I go. He’s really good at that. He’s really good at a lot of things, and now that I have a better handle on what kinda “relationship” this is, I can appreciate the sex for itself and not worry where things are going.

 

 

11

Mar

2011

I should know better

By amasake. Posted in Uncategorized | 1 Comment »

He sucks!

He sucks! He sucks! He sucks! He sucks! He sucks!!!!

No, he doesn’t.

But he does.

Oh I need to chillax. Still.

I am so disappointed, I haven’t heard from the Animator. Since Tuesday. It’s Friday, now. Does he not care what I’m doing this weekend? Does he assume I’ll be around or, worse, does he have other plans without me?

Shouldn’t he have checked in by now? A text, an email even. Could I have read this guy wrong?

He called me amazing, said he’s never felt so comfortable and aroused at the same time… But maybe he said those things cause that’s what you say to a girl you want to fuck? Certainly works.

But ALL weekend? And he didn’t have to lay it on so thick, I’d obviously have fucked his brains out anyway. I was practically humping his leg at happy hour.

And we weren’t just having sex, we were talking the whole time, and sharing, and laughing… We made mac ‘n cheese. We laundered. We napped.

We did not, however, discuss exclusivity.

Oh, great. I fucked a playa.

Shit.  I could have crabs. Herpes. What else gets around rubbers?

Wait, those risks exist whether he’s playing me or not.  My alarm isn’t health-related, it’s emotional. I feel lied to, like he misrepresented himself. How could I have not seen this coming?  I feel stupid for going along with everything. Even more stupid that — despite all signs that he’s not really into me–  I am nevertheless hoping he’ll call me.

I wouldn’t see him, of course, I’d have to be on my way somewhere fabulous with many, loyal friends and potential sexual partners.  And then I really would go out somewhere, and have myself a proper Friday night. Like I will tonight.

I’ll see what Professor is doing. We talked for hours last night, I told him about the Animator but THANK GOD did not confess to breaking our agreement. I just wanted him to know I had “strong feelings” for another guy, and hint that I might have another boyfriend soon.

What a laugh! I spent, like, 72 hours with the guy and suddenly we’re in a relationship. In my head.

Gack! Looking back over our weekend, now, I keep finding instances where I possibly didn’t take a hint to leave. Could I have misunderstood him all that time? Was I making assumptions about his hospitality? Did I pull a “staycation” at his place and he was too polite — and sexually sated — to send me off?

This is rather mortifying. Damn,  I hate how bad I want to hear from him, especially now, when I would really like to know that I did not imagine this entire weekend with him.  Or, if I did, I’d like to know that, too.

 

10

Mar

2011

More

By amasake. Posted in Uncategorized | 4 Comments »

How can it possibly be Thursday already?

My weekend with the Animator was soooooo awesome.  Didn’t want it to end — we both called out of work Monday so we could have one more day together. What can I say, except:  wow!

Of course I banged him. Fuck Professor’s “agreement” — what is up with that, anyway? I tried to break up with him and instead he pulls this Jedi mind trick where we’re together except I’m dating other guys…? But sleeping only with him, somehow. How did he think this was going to pan out?

I guess he thought I’d eventually get bored of dating and give up the vague ghost of  “more” I seem to be after, in our relationship. Well, I’ve found “more” alright but it’s not with Professor.

Oh, Animator… Friday night, we met up in this funky dive bar, shared a cozy table in the corner, talked about our week. He explained his job a little better, and told some great stories about the guys in his shop. Then, we moved onto another bar, to have a beer with some of them.

Crazy dudes, no doubt suffering modest brain damage from huffing auto paint chemicals all day. Flattering, that the Animator would want to introduce us, even though we only just met. You’d never know it, though. He bought my beers and doted on me like his girlfriend the whole time we hung out.

He offered to walk me back to my place, but Professor had left me several messages by the time I checked my phone in the ladies room, so instead of bringing him back with me (where more messages, or worse, might await) I followed him home to his place. Typical bachelor pad, but with a little more style than most. Cool artwork on the walls, for instance. Creative repurposing & jerry-rigging of found objects into lamps, tables, window coverings.

Ooh! He had a big purple couch! He was terribly cute & self-conscious about it, too. Walking in, he warned me that it looked like Grimace died in his living room so I braced myself for a real monstrosity but, no. Just a nice, comfy, muted sofa with a purplish tinge  –  apparently, it looked gray in the store when he bought it. Too funny, this big cocky guy getting all insecure about his interior decorating.

We sat down on his couch, talked for awhile but all I could think about was kissing him… He was flipping channels, commenting on different shows, blah blah blah — enough already! I took the remote, changed to the lamest thing I could find in the hopes that he’d get the hint that TV wasn’t what I was there for.

Finally. He pulled me close and we got down to business. Soooooo nice, to feel that electricity. I was still relatively sure I wasn’t going to have full-on sex with him (as par the agreement with Professor) but then he did something that absolutely makes me melt, whenever a guy does this:  he LIFTED me, and CARRIED me to the bedroom.

Well, to the bed, at least. He lives in a studio apartment, so it’s not like he had to carry me far. Still, what a thrill, when a guy picks you way up in his arms like you’re weightless — a feather, a kitten, a flower — in his grasp. I feel helpless and a little frightened and turned on by such a show of strength.  Instantly, my mindset flips to “submit” and “see where this goes.” My pussy puffs up between my legs; the tingling that leads to wetness begins.

What could I do? And who had time to think? My dress had built-in bra cups: when he pulled it over my head, I was naked except a pair of see-thru lace panties. His own clothing tore off with remarkable speed for a guy wearing layers. Once our bare skin was touching, hesitation seemed pointless. I’ve never had a guy in me so fast, swear to god, he must be prehensile. We fucked like animals the first time, I didn’t bother trying to come.

After some water and more making out, Round Two began. Slower, warmer, more purposeful. Bang, right where I needed to be.

And then more water, making out… some pillow talk. This guy is the BEST at pillow talk. Oh my god… I know I shouldn’t be buying most of this crap but it’s soooooo nice to hear. He admires me, tells me how pretty I am, how sexy, how much he wants me, how much he admires me… he imagines scenarios like parties or dinners or events that we might go to, and describes the funniest things happening the way his personality would interact with mine….

Sounds so dorky when I try to explain, but at the time it’s almost magical or maybe more like he’s casting a spell. He lulls me with his voice, conjures sweet, fuzzy thoughts while I close my eyes and smile…  He strokes my neck, my back, my lower back… traces my spine, pets my bottom, gives me a SMACK! and then before I know it, we’re fucking again.

So I pretty much described my Saturday and Sunday. And Monday, too, come to think.

Of course, we made it out of bed to eat, shower, get dressed as though we were going out but then something would stop us at the door, and before we knew it, we’d be pawing at each other again…

I only had my Friday outfit and the one change of clothes that I keep with me in my backpack, so before I left Monday afternoon we did laundry downstairs together. I wore his XL sweats, tied & cuffed so that I wouldn’t trip over myself getting around. We laughed & joked the whole time, I’ve never had so much fun doing wash. Being domestic.

I stole some free moments to text Professor so he wouldn’t worry but have been avoiding him all week cause I really don’t know what to tell him.

The Animator called me Monday night when I got home and Tuesday at lunch but later that day he texted again that he had tons of catching up to do from missing work & not spending any time in his studio this weekend.  Sounds reasonable, right? But I dunno… if a guy is smitten, he usually finds a way around work or friends or wife or religious views…

And now I still haven’t heard from him. Thursday evening. Two days.  I need to get a grip.

And I should call Professor.